Grief Comes in Waves
By Dexter Rogers
Grief is a natural reaction to loss and can manifest in many forms. Some say it occurs in stages, with grief coming in waves at different levels of intensity. The some of the common early responses may be shock or numbness, which helps to protect the individual from the immediate pain of grief. There also may be patterns of denial and isolation, as well as feelings of guilt, anger, and depression. Eventually, grief can lead to acceptance and resolution. There is no timeline or one-size-fits-all approach to grief, as the individual’s experience will be unique. There may be times when grief is stronger than others and may feel overwhelming and other times when these intense feelings are hardly noticeable. Over time the waves become less intense as the feelings are addressed. It’s important to reach out for help if you need it and give yourself time to work through your grief in whatever way feels right for you. While grief can be difficult, it is also a necessary part of healing after loss. Seeking support from friends, family, and mental health professionals can help you cope with grief in a healthy way. If grief still seems too overwhelming to manage on your own, there is no shame in seeking professional help. Grief is also not only related to death as some may think. People may go through periods of extreme grief after the loss of a relationship or after a life transition for example. With understanding and support, grief can be managed and eventually resolved. Remember that grief doesn’t have to be endured alone. Connecting with others who are going through similar experiences can help you find resolution and acceptance of the loss. You don’t have to go through this process on your own.